I Do, NOW What?
How to Build a Loving Marriage That Lasts

Mark Singletary
June Singletary, LCSW

Table of Contents

Introduction
Section One: Building a Loving Marriage That Lasts
Avoid Divorce Talk, Thoughts, or Threats
Become Mr. or Mrs. Right Overview
Fall in Love Again Overview
The Phases of Love
Increase Loving, Positive Interactions
The 10 T’s
The Revive Your Marriage Profile & Assessment
Section Two: Hope for a Better Marriage
Take Responsibility for Your Life and Problems
Stop Hurting Each Other Overview
Resolve Common Problems Overview
Like a Child
Have a Positive Attitude
Section Three: 6 Simple Steps to Building Your Marriage
Step 1: Decide
Step 2: Act
Step 3: Remove Obstacles
Step 4: Work
Step 5: Incremental Improvements
Step 6: Next
Develop and Practice Patience
Section Four: Become Mr. or Mrs. Right
Become a Strong and Evolving Individual
Respect Your Spouse
Section Five: Fall in Love Again
Build an Affair-Proof Marriage with the 10 T’s
Love Takes Time
Talk as Friends and Lifetime Lovers
Trust Your Spouse and Be Trustworthy
Build Love with Touch
Partners for Life
Treasure Your Spouse
Practice Tenderness
Be Thankful and Show Appreciation
Be Flexible and Willing to Give and Take
Fight for the Success of Your Marriage
Section Six: Stop Hurting Each Other
Receiver (of the Pain)
Giver (of the Pain)
Strengthen Your Character
How to Protect Your Spouse (From You)
Section Seven: Resolve Common Problems
You’re Not the Boss of Me!
Have Effective, Win-Win Discussions
Do Whatever It Takes to Succeed
Meet Your Spouse’s Most Important Needs
Section Eight: Happily Ever After
Be Fully Committed to a Successful, Happy Marriage
Boundaries in Marriage
How Long Should I Keep Trying?
Is This the End or a New Beginning?